Realistic Expectations and the “I’m not being listened to!” Paradox

Often I work with people who are feeling very stressed at work and one of their biggest complaints is “I’m not being listened to!” We live in a world where we have much higher expectations of work; we expect to be consulted on any and every decision in work that will affect us or our… Read More

Exercise and Stress – Can exercising reduce stress and improve mood?

Whenever we ask people what activities or groups of activities improve the mood we invariably get a consensus that exercise is very beneficial. It seems that almost as many people feel that exercises is just as good for mental health as it is for physical health. But is it true? Superficially we can quickly suggest,… Read More

Thinking Errors – Part 3

In the first part of this series we began identifying what thinking errors are and how they affect us. In the previous article we explored further, three classic thinking errors, how we can be easily troubled them, blow things all out of proportion and drive our anxiety higher and higher. Here, we will take a… Read More

Thinking Errors – Part 2

In the first part of this series we began identifying what thinking errors are and how they affect us. In this article we will explore further three classic thinking errors, how we can be easily troubled them, blow things all out of proportion and drive our anxiety higher and higher. It is extremely common to… Read More

Coping With Criticism

Increasingly the world around us is asking for feedback and validation and when that feedback is about us or a project we have worked hard on it can be hard not to be affected by some of the comments. Sometimes the feedback is fair but still hard to swallow and sometimes the feedback can be… Read More

When Stress Was Useful – A Superhuman Response

Imagine if you will, a by gone age. An age of wild bears and packs of wolves roaming freely across the tundra. Add a mammoth meandering along the horizon and a small number of wary, two legged creatures called homo sapiens and you have the picture. These two legged creatures or us, have evolved to… Read More

Understanding Anxiety

Anxiety is not just one disorder but rather a whole range of conditions. Some of these include: Generalized Anxiety Disorder Specific Phobias Obsessive – Compulsive Disorder Social Phobia Albeit each one is different there are common threads that run through them all. These are:  Worry Avoidance Reassurance Seeking Safety Behaviours Fear We all know what… Read More

Understanding depression

Depression is no laughing matter – obviously. And the figures show that the spectre of low mood looms large over many of us. Statistics suggest that up to about 15% of us in the developed world will suffer from serious depression at some time with many more of us experiencing low mood to a point… Read More